Being a single woman in Indonesia....


*weird subject or tumben2nya hahaha* a few days ago I was reading this article in Female magazine (during one of my wuliao-ness), the above title caught my attention (kinda apply leh). It's hard yoh being a jojobo in Indo, trust me. You're pretty much an adult but still living with your parents (no complaint seh), but they somehow still treated you like you're a kid. Cannot really move out from the house since it will be plain rude (mei you lia mao bgt). Problems arising from living with your parents: no privacy, parents never knock entering your room (VOILA here I am ha ha), my mom actually opening my letters (including my cellular phone bills, pisse me off at one point leh), and all other things lah. The only thing to escape this is finding a guy and get married. Another dilemma is, people all around you start asking when will u get married? aunties, friends, parents' friends (especially during someone's wedding party! the statement like: kapan nih nyusul? udah gede yah, dulu mashi kecil, bentar lagi kawin deh...oh hoorah! huks), or friends starting to introduce you to other guys hahah (or maybe like one of nere nurbaya's stories hihihi). Hard no? It's not a difficult task being a single woman in Indonesia, you have to adopt the act "whatever lah" " don't care what other saying" "being single is happy" or" I am still too selfish" or" Kimutaku is still married to another woman" (hihi totoro's twisted world leh).


But kinda just have to remember that Marriage is not actually a solution to all those problems above, but sometimes more often or not Marriage is the start of bigger problems (arise due to 2 people's differences). Some of my married friends told me these exact things lor hehehe....so yeah just keep that in mind too all those single woman out there (just like me hahaha). But funny thing, during my cousin's wedding ceremony in church, the reverend started her sermon by asking this question: APA SIH ENAKNYA KAWIN? (what's so good about marriage?). One of the youths answered this: Enak kan ada yang masakin (toro's respond is: cari aja bebong sono hahahaha). But as I was listening to that question, my mind was drawing a blank, I couldn't find any good thing about marriage (now). All the things that popped into my head is negative things about marriage, I guess at this I am still not ready (dan belom ada prospektif sih haha). Be ready when the time comes, or maybe I am not the marrying kind, I have no problem about that. What's so wrong being single? But living in Indo, where the people expect a woman to eventually be a mother or someone's daughter. There's no such thing as single woman in the 30s (anggapannya tak laku kali huks)...oh well It's just a piece of mind for this weekend.



What have I been doing this weekend? Nothing! except watching Saiyuki non stop, reading books and comics (I am practically broke buying all these mangas!..currently reading Mystery Love/Love KM, and I love Minami-Kun hihihi), packing for Beijing, and tidying up all my CDs and all. I only have 2 weeks left, need to consolidate my social calenders (saying buh bai to my peeps hihi). Oh yeah, anyone watching American Idol season 4 (live delayed on RCTI every sat). I just love Simon Cowell. I actually never watched AI before (yeah, you can laugh). I always love the audition part, since there were always just some people who's conviced they can sing, but in truth they cant's (so LOL).



Happy things about tommorow: got my Audio CD for Jay's concert and hopefully Jay's vcd concert straight from Singapore (YAY) (crossing my fingers!). Still waiting for 5566's OST Ge Dou Tian Wang (Mr Fighting).


ah lunch is served, gotta gooooo!!!!!!

toro dazed & confused 11:01